It was a very rough 4 hours and I anticipate more tomorrow, but eventually, it will get better. Our room has a HUGE window that goes all the way to the floor. We are on the 17th floor overlooking the parking lot and street in front of the hotel. He's been sitting by that window most of the afternoon and evening, staring out of it as he "plays" (or screams). He's preciously trying to communicate with us, and we are just not getting it. We can say a few phrases, but we can't understand what HE is saying to US. Fortunately we have the English teacher who kindly listened to him 2 times in phone conversations and tried to explain his new life to him. In one of the conversations, he told her that the nanny told him she would bring the children in the orphanage to America to visit him. UGH!!!! THAT does not help us!! She was a precious woman when we met her today, but I was afraid of letting her talk to him alone too much because I have heard of things like this in the past. He wants the kids to come here NOW. So frustrating. Also, the director of the orphanage thought it would be a good idea to give his phone number to him and tell him he could call at anytime. I tried 3 times and nobody answered. argh!
He just woke up...that was a short nap about 15 minutes---but he's totally quiet. It looks like he's packing everything in sight and is planning a trip.
He's definitely a man of order. And he wants things to be put away. If we give him something, he puts it in his backpack and doesn't eat it, or play with it.
The language barrier is tough. I knew it would be the hardest part. But, didn't anticipate the screaming crying and trying to tell us things and how hard that would be. We do know several phrases were being repeated, namely something about his caretakers. It will come. It will come.
here are the "good" things. He's totally adorable. And we know he was attached to those who cared for him, which actually is a very good sign. That means he likely will be able to attach to us--- eventually. He is a man of order. He looks me straight in the eye when he wants to talk to me---this is amazing for a kid who's lived in an orphanage. Normally eye contact is a huge issue. Along with the screaming and apparent stubborness and pounding of his fists this afternoon---we know he has a fighting spirit, which is good for all he may have to face in the coming months with surgeries, etc. We are experienced with stubborn kids, so God has prepared us to deal with that streak. (although today we really didn't do much about it, because today it was more about grief, fear, anxiety, etc.--)
Some sweet blessings that he came with:
1. a copy of his finding ad--this is part of the process when kids are brought to the orphanage. An ad is put in the local paper to see if anyone will claim this child--(typically nobody claims them) This is a part of his history, so we wanted it and not everyone gets it.
2. The teacher bought him 2 big books of the city where he comes from. He LOVES these books and immediately showed them to us.
3. The orphanage director sent him along with a beautiful jade dragon which is symbolic of his city as well. It is the first jade dragon (i need to learn more about this piece) It's a momento for him to keep for his entire life. So precious that the director would care so much. Symbol
4. They gave us the blanket he was found in as an infant. It's a simple pink quilted baby blanket. A very sweet, tender, amazing part of his history as well. He seems to recognize it, so I wonder if he's had it all his life.
5. Joni- the teacher sent along 4 necklaces from his province--one for each of us. (right now he has claimed them as his own, so we'll see if any of the rest of us get to wear them..=) this would make us a Chifeng family....
He is still quiet as a mouse as I'm writing this. It's like a switch just turned him off at 7:30 and he's been silently taking things out of his backpacks, etc. folding things, putting them away, looking at them. I'm ok with this...I was worried for the people in rooms next to us tonight, but right now he's good. God is good...we prayed over him and Peter sang "Jesus Loves Me" and "I love you Lord" to him. God has given him a sweet peace right now. And his pleasure seems to be had with organizing everything.
Please keep his tender broken heart in all of your prayers. The communication will be our biggest challenge for now. He will see the nanny and director again tomorrow briefly. Pray that we don't start all over again.
Oh, you probably want to know about his little legs...Well, they ARE little, but we have not seen them bare yet to see what condition. We are not attempting any of that tonight. He's walking, but I'm not exactly sure how. One is very bent at about the knee level, and the other just very short (for those that don't know, his paperwork says he is missing the fibula in both of his legs--this may require amputation from the knee down and prosthetics--we need to see U.S. physicians to decide what our next steps will be with that.)
So there you go.
Our first update with him as part of our family.
This is the nanny he loves so much. She loves him too.
Peter, Heidi, Lucas, Isaac, Director, CCAA officer, Nanny
A hard day for a sweet boy
not much I could do to console his broken heart but wipe a thousand boogers and tears
and then .... there was silence
and then there was "organizing" and silence....