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Thursday, August 25, 2011

A delicate road....

We are homeschooling Lucas.  One of the things I love about it is our time is our own, and we can grab teachable moments and go with them.  Also, if an opportunity arises, I can have conversations with Lucas about his life--if he has questions or if I feel now is the time to share with him another piece of his story.

Today was one of those days.

We were talking about our Almighty God.  Over the past several days we have talked about God our Creator, God who Knows all things, God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit.  I could spend a week or year on any one of those subjects, but I am just trying to get some very basic knowledge of who God is into our boy.  Today as we discussed our Almighty God---a God so Great, so Big, the King of Kings and Lord of Lords it came to me that it would be a good time to share with Lucas again how much we prayed for him while he was still in China and how God heard our prayers and reached over to him and loved him and held him close even when we could not be there.  God is so Great-God is so Big-God is beyond what we can comprehend...
For some reason the Spirit led me to tell Lucas for the first time that indeed he had a Chinese Mama and Baba (daddy).   Up to this point he thought there were no mama's and baba's in china because nobody he lived with had one, so they obviously don't exist there...
I told him that he DID have a mama and baba there and they could not take care of him and that is why he grew up in the orphanage with his Ayi (name for nannies in chinese) and friends.
He asked their names.
I said "I don't know"
He didn't ask further questions but I just kept telling him how much we loved him and will be his mama and daddy forever.

As we were talking he had an interesting response.
He welled  up.
He looked at me and said "'sank you" (thank you)
I said "for what?"
he said "For praying for me"
He hugged me with the biggest bear hug and gentle tears.  He just kept saying how much he loved me and thanking us for being his mom and dad and praying for him.

This whole adoption thing is a very delicate road to tread upon.  I'm just glad that I listened to God's lead on the timing on this.  This conversation has been on the forefront of my mind for months.  But, the timing of these things is such a hard thing to know.  Now it's "out there" and if he has more questions we will address them.  I feel he can at least ask the questions now.

We want him to feel he can be open with us and ask questions.  We won't have all the answers, but we do know the ONE who does.  Some questions will remain unanswered in this lifetime.  Our job is to love him through it and continue to pray that the Holy Spirit does His work in Lucas's life.

we love this boy


  1. Heidi - Stop making me cry at work!...No - never mid - don't stop. These moments touch me so deep in my heart - I am so appreciative that you are sharing these special moments with the rest of us. You really have one tender hearted and very special son. God is so good and Lucas will know God and love him because he is seeing it lived out right in front of him. God picked the perfect mommy for him!

  2. Thanks for your sweet comment. God is really doing a work in our boy.